Turning 40 felt like a milestone worth celebrating with reflection. I had planned to write a post on my 40th birthday, sharing 40 lessons I had learned in my 40 years of life. But, as life often does, it got in the way, and the article remained unwritten. Fast forward three years, and as 2025 began, I resolved to finally complete it but instead of 40 lessons I thought to write the biggest and most profound lessons I have learnt along the way. With my 43rd birthday quickly approaching on January 25th, it feels like the perfect time to pause, reflect, and share the lessons that have shaped me over the years.
Life is a continuous journey of learning, and over the years, I’ve gathered some invaluable lessons that have shaped my understanding of the world and myself. As I reflect on these lessons, I’m reminded of the profound simplicity and power they hold—reminders to live with intention, embrace connection, and grow through every experience.
Setting the Intention Right
The energy behind your intentions is a powerful force that shapes not only your actions but also how others perceive and respond to you. Intention isn’t just a thought or plan, it carries a vibration that aligns with your true self. When your intentions are pure and aligned with your beliefs, they create an authentic energy that others can sense, even without words. This authenticity becomes the foundation for trust, connection, and meaningful action.
The Balance Between Information and Knowledge
In today’s world, information is everywhere, and it feels like everyone knows everything. But true knowledge is more than just gathering facts. it’s about understanding the context and nature of the issue at hand. For instance, while intermittent fasting might be touted as the healthiest choice, it’s not necessarily right for everyone. Knowledge requires critical thinking, self-awareness, and the ability to discern what works for your unique circumstances.
Embracing Our Interconnected Nature
We are not separate entities existing in isolation. We are part of an intricate web of life, deeply connected to the world around us. The air we breathe, the water we drink, and the food we consume are all part of an ongoing exchange with nature. Recognizing this interconnectedness reminds us to live with gratitude and mindfulness, understanding that our actions ripple through the universe in ways both seen and unseen.
Success Lies in Small Habits
Success isn’t about grand achievements or dramatic overnight changes. It’s built on the foundation of small, consistent habits practiced daily. These small actions, like bricks, form the structure of a fulfilling life. For example, breaking down tasks like cleaning or organizing into manageable daily actions makes life more balanced and less overwhelming. Over time, these habits compound, leading to significant transformations.
The Power of Atomic Habits
The beauty of small habits lies in their consistency and scalability. Each habit may seem insignificant on its own, but together, they create a powerful impact. Instead of waiting for the perfect moment to tackle a daunting task, break it into smaller steps and spread them across the week. You’ll find that these micro-changes not only save time but also reduce stress, helping you build a more organized and fulfilling life.
Embracing Our True Nature
At our core, we are wired for love and connection. Even when we lose sight of this truth, it remains an inherent part of our being. Embracing this reality means acknowledging that we live not just for ourselves but as part of a greater, interconnected whole. By honoring our need for connection and love, we align with our true nature and contribute to the collective well-being.
The Mind- A Gateway to Transformation
The mind is one of the most powerful tools we possess. The conscious mind sets direction and goals, while the subconscious drives the actions needed to achieve them. By understanding and harnessing both, we unlock the potential for transformation. The synergy between the conscious and subconscious minds reminds us that the possibilities within us are limitless, waiting to be explored.
The Power of Pausing and Asking “Why?”
One of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned is the importance of pausing before reacting. In that pause, I ask myself, “Why am I feeling this way?” This simple question helps me delve deeper into my emotions, uncovering hidden thoughts, fears, or unmet needs. Instead of projecting blame or reacting impulsively, I’ve learned to take responsibility for my feelings, fostering understanding and growth. More often than not, the answers lie within, revealing triggers, expectations, or past experiences that shape my reactions.
Each of these lessons has come through moments of reflection, challenges, and growth. They remind me to live intentionally, embrace connection, and continuously evolve. As I carry these insights forward, I’m reminded that life is less about perfection and more about the journey—one small habit, one intentional moment, and one heartfelt connection at a time.